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■　おすすめ英語学習書
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●　ｺｳﾋﾞﾙﾄﾞ英英辞典
    http://tinyurl.com/2c243c

    他の英英辞典とは表現方法がかなり違います｡私の英語は､ｺｳﾋﾞﾙﾄﾞ英英辞典
    のおかげと言って良いでしょう｡難しい単語も易しい英語表現で説明して
    あります｡英語を英語で考える上でこの辞書を使えば自然と英語で考える
    習慣が身につきます｡

    ぜひ､これを座右の辞書としてください｡英語がわかる人は､この辞書を
    必ず持っています｡

●　ﾛﾝｸﾞﾏﾝ現代英英辞典 4訂増補版 CD-ROM2枚付 <上製版>
    http://tinyurl.com/2u83ae

    すでにｺｳﾋﾞﾙﾄﾞ英英辞典をもっている方は､Second Opinionの英英辞書
    としてﾛﾝｸﾞﾏﾝ現代英英辞典がお勧めです｡特にﾊﾟｿｺﾝでお仕事をし
    ている方には､CD-ROM付がお役に立ちます｡

●　Hopes, love and dreams in New York 
　　　−NHK CD Book―NHKﾗｼﾞｵ英会話ｽﾄｰﾘｰﾌﾞｯｸ
　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　大杉 正明 (著)
    http://tinyurl.com/68ppk

　　この教材は､一度ＮＨＫﾗｼﾞｵ英会話で放送された物を学習参考書として
　　まとめた物です｡私は､この教材を今も時々聞いています｡登場する人物
　　と内容が心に響き､声優の声に恋をしてしまったのです｡

　　物語に喜怒哀楽があり､最後には感激して涙が出てきてしまうほどの
　　ﾄﾞﾗﾏが演出されています｡英語学習書を越えた名作英語会話学習書
　　です｡

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□ 心温まる物語 （自分の意見を英語で表現する訓練）
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            When Nagging Gets in the Way 
               - By Gina Gardiner 

 Whether you are working with your partner, your teenage children, or
 a work colleague, the principle is the same. What you say and the way
 in which it is said, the tone of voice, the words you use, and the
 timing of when things are said all have the capacity to widen the gap
 between you and the other person, to let them off the hook as they
 can rationalize your nagging as unreasonable, or to make them think.

 If you want things to be different, you have to change old patterns
 of behavior. Listening to yourself and understanding what that
 triggers in the other person is a vital step to creating a different
 future. 

 This article uses the relationship between workaholics and their
 partners as the focus, but you can use the principles when dealing
 with any relationship.

 Most partners of workaholics feel neglected; they see themselves
 taking second place to their partners work. Clients often describe
 how their partner will take the time and trouble to listen to a
 member of their staff far more readily than they do them or their
 children. 

 "If they loved me enough they would want to spend time with me." They
 make the assumption that it is lack of love which causes their
 partner to spend long hours away from them. Their frustrations and
 sense of loneliness take over, and as soon as their partner gets home,
 the frustrations spill over and they share how they are feeling and
 the recriminations begin.

 Like so many of the strategies we use when we are feeling
 un-resourced, it is incredibly unproductive. Despite the fact that
 the strategy rarely works, many partners (and parents) find they go
 into nag mode knowing it is destined to fail and make them feel bad
 into the bargain. 

 Einstein's definition of madness is to carry on doing the same thing
 even though we know it doesn't work. Yet millions of us continue to
 behave in a set way long after we know it is failing. 

 This is not about blaming. We do the best we can given the personal
 resources at our disposal. What we want to do is to help you feel you
 have a wider range of resources at your disposal and the choice when
 to use them.

 To understand why it fails so often, you need to take a step back and
 take a long hard look at what is really going on. Understanding what
 is actually happening can also give you the opportunity to behave
 differently.

 Most workaholics are workaholics because of some deep seated need
 within themselves. Many are driven to succeed on terms which only
 they can define as they push themselves long after most people would
 feel highly successful. 

 For some, it is the dread of failure rather than the pull of success
 which drives them. A poor sense of self-worth developed in childhood,
 the need to feel significant by doing things for others, or having
 external verification of worth are all common reasons for people
 feeling more secure in their working life than in their personal life.

 You know your partner well. Consider what is driving them. Think
 about the relationship they had with their parents, siblings, or at
 school.

 Partners will often respond disproportionately to a particular tone
 of voice or to being told that they have failed. It often hits a deep
 seated raw nerve which has been created during their formative years.
 The nagging becomes synonymous with a parent telling them how useless
 they are or a teacher or class bully belittling them.

 Over the next few days, just listen to yourself. Put yourself into
 the shoes of the other person and consider how you would respond.

 Be honest with yourself, but be constructive. This is not about
 blaming. It is about seeing more clearly why things have gone wrong
 and doing your best to find a productive way forward for you and your
 partner. 

 Finding a win-win solution is always best. Making it a competition
 between you and their work is a risky business.

 Over the next few days, think about how you handle yourself when
 dealing with your partner. You are the only person you can truly
 control. 

 Think about what you truly want. If you want to change the
 relationship you have with your partner for the better, then simply
 waiting for them to change is unlikely to give you the result you
 want. 

 To change things for the better, you have to make the decision to
 change the one person in your power. That is YOU.

 Think about the way in which you speak, when you choose to bring
 things up, and how you couch things. Pouncing on your partner as soon
 as they come in tired and irritable from work is probably not the
 most productive time to talk about how unreasonable you think they
 are, at least not if you want them to truly listen to you. 

 Run the conversation in your head and plan to do it differently. As a
 general rule of thumb, make a distinction between how you feel about
 them and their behavior. 

 "I love you very much, but I find ------ really difficult." Keep calm
 and try not to see it as a point scoring exercise.

 Making a change to your approach can make a difference over time. 

 Be realistic; if your partnership has been rocky for an extended
 period of time, it can take time for a new strategy to work.

 私の回答は､こちらです｡
http://eigo.undo.jp/content/view/69/28/


Q1: Please make a few sentence with "As a general rule of thumb,
    xxxxxxxxxxxx."

    As a general rule of thumb, you have to spend a lot of time on
    a target market when you start a new business.
    
Q2: What do you say when your partner comes home tired and 
    irritated from work?

    I just say, "You look tired. Why don't you take a hot tub and
    relax before I make a cup of tea?"
    
Q3: What do you see when you put yourself into the shoes of 
    the other person?

    I have a client who is trying to steal my know-how on a web-site
    building. If I put myself into the shoes of that client, I see
    he needs my know-how to start his own business.

    It took me three years to learn the working knowledge on the
    web-site building and I do not like to be stolen.

    However, the know-how I accumulated through the years is not easily
    copied so there would not be a concern.


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□　編集後記
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 自分でﾋﾞｼﾞﾈｽを始めると提供したｻｰﾋﾞｽへの支払い回収という問題が
 発生する｡

 私のﾋﾞｼﾞﾈｽは､原則､前払い｡

 ただ､

 時として｢前払い｣という決済条件がｸﾗｲｱﾝﾄに受け入れられない場合
 がる｡そんなときに限って支払日に入金されていない場合が多い｡

 多くの中小企業は､売り上げがたっても債権回収が出来なくて悩む事を何度
 も経験する｡

 私のﾋﾞｼﾞﾈｽも例外ではないが､原則､｢前払い｣と話して仕事をしている
 ためそれほど問題になるｹｰｽは多くない｡

 だが､ｾﾞﾛではない！

 営業で仕事を取る､ｸﾗｲｱﾝﾄを探すとき､自分にとって良いお客かどう
 かを判断する目が必要だ｡

 どうも､このお客は決済面で危ういと少しでも感じたら適当に断ることにし
 ている｡このお客を判断する目を養うのに最低3年はかかると思っている｡

 ”石の上にも3年”

 起業して1年と9ｹ月目だ｡まだまだ､学ぶべきことが沢山ある｡

Hanji

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　●Writing With Power: Techniques for Mastering the Writing Process
    (ﾍﾟｰﾊﾟｰﾊﾞｯｸ) 
   http://tinyurl.com/27vnoc
   Peter Elbow (著) 

   この本は最近見つけた本だ｡Emailで米国の企業とやり取りをする時に
   Writing Skillが求められる｡Amazonでこの本の中身の閲覧してほしい｡
   なぜ､私がこの本を薦めている理由がわかる｡


　●Ready to Write: A First Composition Text (ﾍﾟｰﾊﾟｰﾊﾞｯｸ) 
    Karen Lourie Blanchard (著) 
　　http://tinyurl.com/2s94db

　　米国の大学で初めて英語の授業を受けた｡まず､習った事は､
　　ﾊﾟﾗｸﾞﾗﾌの書き方だ｡その次が､A4１ﾍﾟｰｼﾞのｴｯｾｰの書き方だ｡
　　毎回授業がある度に宿題でｴｯｾｰを提出させられた｡そして､添削
　　された宿題が点数（A, A-, B+, B, B-など）と共に戻ってきた｡
　　日本で学んだ方法とは､１８０度違っていた｡それが新鮮だった｡

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電子出版：  英語/英会話を自分の物にしたい人のための情報発信
発行者：    Norito H.Yoshida
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